As my due date got closer, I remember being anxious about a million things. But breastfeeding? I figured it would just happen. I mean, isn’t it supposed to be natural?
Turns out, “natural” doesn’t always mean easy.
Those first days were rough. I had questions I didn’t even know how to ask, and I felt totally overwhelmed trying to figure it all out. While my baby and I eventually got into a rhythm, it was a rocky start—and I know I’m not the only one who’s felt that way.
We first shared this story back in 2019 with help from the amazing team at Breastfeeding Hawai‘i. This updated version includes the latest research and guidance—but most importantly, it’s here to help you feel a little more supported, informed, and seen during those early (and often messy) days.
What’s something helpful to keep in mind when starting out?
Breastfeeding is a learned skill—for both you and your baby. The early weeks require patience, support, and grace. A good latch is key, and asking for help (from friends, family, or an IBCLC lactation consultant) can make a huge difference.
How do I know if I’m making enough milk?
Watch for these signs that baby is getting enough:
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At least 6 wet diapers and 3–4 poopy diapers by day 5–6
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Audible swallowing during feeds
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Baby appears satisfied afterward
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Consistent weight gain (or back to birth weight by day 7–10)
Pumping output is not always a reliable indicator—especially in nursing parents. Focus more on diapers and weight gain.
What is colostrum and is it enough?
Colostrum is the thick, golden milk your body produces in the first few days. It’s packed with antibodies and nutrients and perfect for your baby’s tiny tummy (about the size of a cherry on day 3).
Frequent nursing and hand expression can help stimulate your supply and reassure you that milk is there, even if your breasts don’t feel full yet.
What if milk production feels delayed?
Some reasons for delayed supply include birth complications, medical conditions, or latch issues. If you're concerned, connect with a lactation consultant and continue nursing and/or pumping often to stimulate supply.
Is pain while breastfeeding normal?
Mild tenderness is common early on—but sharp pain, damage, or dread during feeds is a sign that something’s off. Possible causes:
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Poor latch
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Oral restrictions (tongue/lip tie)
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Infection or clogged duct
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Sensitive skin or improper positioning
Check in with a lactation consultant if pain doesn’t improve.
How can I relieve nipple soreness?
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Adjust baby’s latch and positioning
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Express a few drops of breastmilk and rub it on your nipples
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Use organic coconut oil or hydrogel pads between feeds
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Try hands-on pumping or nursing in laid-back positions
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Ask for help early—support makes all the difference
When should I introduce a bottle?
The current recommendation is to introduce a bottle between 2–4 weeks, once breastfeeding is well-established, to help reduce the risk of bottle refusal later on.
Other tools that might help:
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Nursing pillows or rolled towels for comfort
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A hands-free pumping bra
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Supportive bras that don’t compress breast tissue
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Nipple shields, but only under professional guidance
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Early hunger cues: rooting, smacking lips, turning head, hand to mouth
Final thoughts
You don’t have to do this alone. Breastfeeding is a journey with a learning curve—and it's okay to ask for help along the way.
